Dealing with Memories

Amey in Idaho posted a powerful post today. She made reference to a post made from Drazil. And so the string continues…

As I left a comment (which I have been really bad about these last few weeks), it started to get very long. Way long. So I am doing a post with a similar theme and hope you don’t mind Amey, and Drazil (Yeah right!).

The Coles Notes version: Losing weight means moving into different clothes, which hold powerful memories for us. We can’t wear them anymore. Drazil’s was mourning the loss of her Snakeskin Shoes. It wasn’t the item, but the memory.

Don't give those memories away. Keep the best in a box to remember your past. If you can't keep the entire piece, cut out a little square of material or pictures of the outfits. Handy, creative types would scrapbook them all with little anecdotes. Amey mentioned a bra she wore at her wedding. I would definitely keep that bra. Pull it out for the memories. Maybe even put it in a shadow box. I’m not kidding.

I save a couple of little outfits from when my kids were babies (my youngest is almost 25). They still invoke these strong memories. I think in my heart I will have them to try on my grandchildren (if and when that ever happens). I still have the head piece from when I was a flower girl over 50 years ago (picture to come).

And although we cannot live in the past, it's ok to keep the memories, whether they are the actual item, a poem, a story or maybe a photo. We haven't lost what we were, but we have to move into the future—the scary unknown. I didn’t tell everyone about all the cool clothes I bought last weekend. Well daughter was there “forcing” me into most of it. I now wonder if it was a bit of a mental block to not recognize that the weight has left the building. There may be future sightings but really it is gone for good. Elvis costume might have been good at the time, but they and him are gone. But the memories live on.

Life is about memories—good, bad, ugly, sad, happy, disgusting, sweet and ...  It can be a piece of clothing, a picture, a song, even a smell. And as we grow older we develop new ones. We just have to know that those new memories will be just as powerful as the ones in our past. Guaranteed.

Or do like me and just use a memory stick!

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